flappininthebreeze

Finally someone is willing to take a stand:

http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2015/...?intcmp=hphz04

catfever24

I agree, we are raising a generation of pansies. And I`m not talk`n about the flower. If this offends anybody, sorry.

Bodupp

"It's time to put on your big-boy pants, kids."

Bingo. And quit wiping your snot on your sleeves.

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NLytle

I unfortunately find myself in this generation and I will say it is absolutely embarrassing.

The world is turning into a bunch of little bitches.

It's a sad truth.

kanaka

I cut this article out a long time ago, April 2009, it's still true. BUT, how do we find our way back home?

ROSEMOND: High self-esteem for kids a sham

In the 1960s, American parents stopped going to their elders for advice and began going instead to mental health professionals — people like me. To create a devoted client base, we had to come up with something new. So we cut from whole cloth a nouveau philosophy that was 180 degrees removed from the philosophy that had successfully guided every previous generation of parents. The centerpiece of this new point of view was the notion that high self-esteem is a good thing and parents should do all in their power to make sure their children acquire it.

The supposed merits of high self-esteem were sold on the basis of rhetoric, not evidence. The evidence, however belated, is now in, and the evidence says high self-esteem isn’t the holy grail it was promoted as being.

People with high self-regard, the evidence says, possess low regard for others. Instead of seeking opportunities to serve others, they seek to manipulate others. Furthermore, people with high self-regard tend to antisocial behavior. People incarcerated in maximum security prisons have very high self-regard, for example.

Pre-psychological parenting emphasized respect for others. People with high other-regard seek opportunities to serve; therefore, they pay attention to other people. People with high self-esteem want to be served and be paid attention to. It’s the simple difference between wanting to do for others and wanting others to do for you — obligation versus entitlement.

So, to the question, “Isn’t it possible for a child to have high self-esteem and a high level respect for others?” The answer is an unequivocal no.

Because high self-esteem has become even more American than the flag and apple pie, what I say on the subject produces what psychologists call cognitive dissonance. Parents become confused, even angry. The most common protest: “But I want my child to be confident!” There is no evidence that people who are humble, modest and possess high regard for others lack the belief they are capable of dealing with life’s challenges. The Amish do not value or promote high self-esteem (they call it “being prideful”) and they don’t think there’s a problem they can’t solve (and you’d be hard-pressed to identify one they haven’t solved).

Self-esteem doesn’t pass the common-sense test either. Would you rather be employed by, work alongside, be close friends with or be married to a person with high self-esteem or a person who is humble and modest? See what I mean?

Your common sense knows the truth, the way things really are. (And make no mistake, high self-esteem and humility do not coexist.) The problem is that America’s parenting common sense has been all but smothered by a big, wet blanket of psychobabble that was manufactured in, yep, the 1960s.

So, since belief in high self-esteem is essential to believing in the whole of postmodern psychological parenting, I maintain that the latter is completely devoid of value. It is a sham, a pig in a poke, an intellectual rip-off. It has damaged children, families, schools and culture.

I propose, therefore, that we begin the invigorating, rejuvenating process of finding our way back home.

• Family psychologist John Rosemond answers parents’ questions on his Web site (www.rosemond.com).

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J0nesi

dido, i don't know where it started but i wish someone would really stop this kind of crap.