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Mingo
 
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NEVER agrue with an IDIOT,they will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.
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Trigger
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| First I would say if you have never said that you expected him to share in the cost and he is not a "boat person" he may truly be ignorant of the situation. He may have also assumed that if family was expected to share in the expenses that your wife would have said something to HER sister. Not that it's the way I view the world but still a possibility. That said I would proceed as follows........... 1) Invite him over for a "boat party" to clean and wax the boat (you provide the beer and food). Have another buddy "help"(he is the plant) have your buddy hand you big wad of cash in front of you brother-in-law and proclaim "here is what I owe you from the last fishing trip". Take the opportunity to tell your brother-in-law that since it has gotten so expensive that EVERYONE will now be "expected" to pay their share. 2) Have your wife tell her sister the SHE expects HER and her husband to share in the cost since it has gotten so expensive. You can have her explain that most people do it this way and you were just being generous in the past. 3) When you go out again have your "buddy" ask the brother-in-law if he knows how much he owes you for "his share" and then have him pay you in front of the brother-in-law. If he doesn't take the hint he's not going to. Then it will be a case of do you keep letting him and his wife feeload or basically confront them and tell them they are no longer welcome on the boat. I do not have a boat at the coast so when I come down I go out with a friend who lives in Fairhope. I have gone out with him several times and have always picked up my share of food, bait etc.....but he always has fueled the boat and when I have offered to pay he has refused it. Last time I was at his place he had to work the morning we were going to go out so with nothing to do other than cruise Fairhope, fish the pier or watch TV I spent almost 6 hard hours and removed everything from his boat, washed it inside and out(including the bilge and the anchor locker) and repacked it. It was the least I could do seeing as how I had messed it up as much as him in the last couple of months. The difference is I may actually understand what it takes to keep up a boat.
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Illustrious Illuminated High Mullet
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Curtis, now your problem can be solved, invite him to join this forum and point him to this thread....you won't have to say one more word about the problem.....
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White Marlin
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Ron I have thought of that. He has friends on the forum, and I was somewhat bashfull about it before the origional post due to there is a possiblilty that could happen, by someone knowing who he is, if it hasn't already.
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Mingo
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| Before you two go out again just have a talk with him and tell him like it is , Gas is $4.00 a gallon , Bait is so much , ice is a bunch , TACKLE is a BUTTLOAD, fuel in the truck , Food, drinks, gear, wear & tear on the boat, Motor and trailer . Be honest and don't sugar coat it, it would also be best if the conversation was in front of your wife and his so everyone is on the same page. If he can't figure it out after that ..................Loose him.
Lesterwww.aluminumalloyboats.com Got Alloy , Got wood
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Grouper
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Garbo (7/5/2008)
Ron I have thought of that. He has friends on the forum, and I was somewhat bashfull about it before the origional post due to there is a possiblilty that could happen, by someone knowing who he is, if it hasn't already.My .02 worth----Even if he has heard from his friends or read it for himself, you owe it to him to talk about it. Obviously it is bothering you REAL bad. If he gets mad and never goes out with you again, nothing is lost. At least expense wise. Just because you two disagree on fishing doesn't mean you never talk again.... Good Luck in your pursuit....
SWEET OKOLE800-hanapa'a '91 23FT TROPHY 200 YAMAHA
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