What would you do about a "Free Loading" relative?

Garbo · 07-02-2008, 01:51 PM

I got one.

He will borrow anything and everything. He wants to be a part of everything that is going on but never contributes to the expense of what is going on. He has alot of high hopes and dreams that he constantly talks about, but when the gas tank is empty he left his wallet at home. I have been guilty of not confronting him, and I possibly may have built somewhat of an expectation. It's pretty sad, and recently even my wife spoke up, who normally doesn't speak out until things are really on her lastnerve.

BTW this is not new, been going on for years.

What would you do, say or not do?

hebegb · 07-02-2008, 01:52 PM

say goodbye

Cuz · 07-02-2008, 01:55 PM

Cut the cord!!!!!!

reelfinatical · 07-02-2008, 01:59 PM

Does he have anything you can mooch off him for? Show him what it's like..?

cuzmondo · 07-02-2008, 02:06 PM

Without getting personal or in to your business; first you have to decide if this is a relative you care about enough that you're willing to help and hope to see them do better. Also, do you enjoy their company? If so, then you owe it to them and your self to lay down some ground rules. Start by letting them know it's been going on for a long time and "appears" that they are taking advantage and that from now on they are going to have to anti up or not participate. If they heed the advice and step up to the place, then great, but if not, you have to be prepared to cut 'em loose. Some learn, others don't. The one's that don't never will, and will only continue to drag their friends and family down and cause animosity.

JoeZ · 07-02-2008, 02:08 PM

How do you know my brother?

hebegb · 07-02-2008, 02:11 PM

problem is...too many don't want to learn or get better or make their own way

ask me how I know....:banghead

Garbo · 07-02-2008, 02:19 PM

Quote:

whalersailor (7/2/2008)First - "Free Loading ...." WHAT? Son, daughter, other relative, friend, neighbor, co-worker, employee???? To me it makes a difference, with different solutions for each.

Bro in Law

bluffman2 · 07-02-2008, 02:24 PM

your wifes brother or your sisters husband?

Garbo · 07-02-2008, 02:29 PM

Quote:

bluffman2 (7/2/2008)your wifes brother or your sisters husband?

If you couldn't tell, I was trying to avoid the detail, but, wife's sister's husband.

07-02-2008, 01:51 PM	#1
Garbo Senior Member Blue Marlin Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: PC Fl., Orange Bch, Gulf Shores, Camden Al. Posts: 5,141	What would you do about a "Free Loading" relative? I got one. He will borrow anything and everything. He wants to be a part of everything that is going on but never contributes to the expense of what is going on. He has alot of high hopes and dreams that he constantly talks about, but when the gas tank is empty he left his wallet at home. I have been guilty of not confronting him, and I possibly may have built somewhat of an expectation. It's pretty sad, and recently even my wife spoke up, who normally doesn't speak out until things are really on her lastnerve. BTW this is not new, been going on for years. What would you do, say or not do?

07-02-2008, 01:52 PM	#2
hebegb Senior Member Sailfish Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Pace Posts: 1,643	RE: What would you do about a "Free Loading" relative? say goodbye

07-02-2008, 01:55 PM	#3
Cuz Senior Member Trigger Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Pensacola Posts: 375	RE: What would you do about a "Free Loading" relative? Cut the cord!!!!!!

07-02-2008, 01:59 PM	#4
reelfinatical Senior Member Sailfish Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: NC Posts: 1,895	RE: What would you do about a "Free Loading" relative? Does he have anything you can mooch off him for? Show him what it's like..?

07-02-2008, 02:06 PM	#5
cuzmondo Senior Member Snapper Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 464	RE: What would you do about a "Free Loading" relative? Without getting personal or in to your business; first you have to decide if this is a relative you care about enough that you're willing to help and hope to see them do better. Also, do you enjoy their company? If so, then you owe it to them and your self to lay down some ground rules. Start by letting them know it's been going on for a long time and "appears" that they are taking advantage and that from now on they are going to have to anti up or not participate. If they heed the advice and step up to the place, then great, but if not, you have to be prepared to cut 'em loose. Some learn, others don't. The one's that don't never will, and will only continue to drag their friends and family down and cause animosity.

07-02-2008, 02:08 PM	#6
JoeZ I eat Blue Marlin Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Gulf Breezin' it Posts: 4,226	RE: What would you do about a "Free Loading" relative? How do you know my brother?

07-02-2008, 02:11 PM	#7
hebegb Senior Member Sailfish Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Pace Posts: 1,643	RE: What would you do about a "Free Loading" relative? problem is...too many don't want to learn or get better or make their own way ask me how I know....:banghead

07-02-2008, 02:24 PM	#9
bluffman2 Senior Member White Marlin Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 2,940	RE: What would you do about a "Free Loading" relative? your wifes brother or your sisters husband?

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